The “Unusual” Poster-Boys

 

Posters have been an integral part of our lives now. We see many at the billboards – some selling products, some propagating a message and rest for everything else. Typically most posters have a brand ambassador aka Poster-Boy. Most of us, including ‘Yours Truly’, connect with few of these Poster-Boys because of the trust one has in the Poster-Boy’s persona, ability and/or sincerity. Today I write in honour of the 2 “unusual” poster-boys who have influenced my life and whom I have put high up in the billboard in my mind. Continue reading “The “Unusual” Poster-Boys”

Three Steps to Optimism

I like to participate regularly in few online forums and break-time discussions. In almost all of these forums and discussions I have noticed a common pattern – The best ideas are from people who are optimist. By optimist I mean people who have a good feeling about everything and start on a note of cheer and belief.  Such people embrace optimism — inside themselves without any pretence. It is their deep-seated behaviour. It is a gift to understand how to project, share, and inspire with optimism. It is an even greater act of generosity to be inspired by optimism from others and to be willing to receive it.


The capacity to be a natural recipient of ideas and other peoples' optimism is what makes for the ultimate optimist. You may be open to experimenting with new things, but do you truly see the good in something before the bad? The order of this thought process is critical: to try and see everything good in an idea before seeing anything bad. I request that you read the previous line once again…


While most of us like to think we do, and would therefore self-describe ourselves as optimistic, more often (if we are truly honest with ourselves) we are natural critics (even cynics). Continue reading “Three Steps to Optimism”

Sleep Management / Therapy


This topic is close to my heart. Very close I iterate :)! More so with ageing I realize the vitality and magical effects of a good night’s sleep. Not many years earlier when life was simpler, sleep was something that just happened somewhere in-between day and night. As time goes by and as my to-do list is increasingly becoming a book, I realize that sleep is not something that just happens… it needs to be managed well.

 

With the advent of technology and its increasing burden on our time (are you on Facebook by any chance?! Do you have a smartphone?!), we all experience some level of sleep-depravity most days. We assume that a certain lack of sleep will make us more productive. Unfortunately the truth is otherwise. Most of us are more familiar with the debilitating aspects of little sleep: headaches, irritability, lack of patience with colleagues and family, loss of focus and productivity, too much junk food, weight gain or loss, nails bitten to the quick. We all know what we're supposed to take rest and get more sleep amidst exercising regularly; avoiding caffeine and alcohol; setting priorities, working efficiently, planning ahead… And yet we're more sleep-deprived than ever before, and our personal energy is tanking. Continue reading “Sleep Management / Therapy”

Compulsive versus Realistic Optimism – Slippery versus Concrete Road!

 

I have a thing for reading self-motivational books and listening to motivational speakers… and having read and listened to many, I can emphatically proclaim a very clear message in all – “Believe that success will come to you, and it will". Those of you who watch Hindi cinema would relate to Aamir Khan saying “All is well!” in “3 Idiots”. This is a variation of above believes.  

 

Having greyed a little and having believed in above for a greater part of my adolescence, I stand to differ presently and would like to re-word the motivational line – “Plan that success will come to you, and it will.”

 

In fact, not only is visualizing or “believizing” "success" unhelpful, it is disastrous. This is good advice to give only if you are trying to sabotage the recipient. It is a recipe for failure. And no, I'm not overstating it.

 

But how can this be? Isn't optimism a good thing? Continue reading “Compulsive versus Realistic Optimism – Slippery versus Concrete Road!”

33 Lessons taught by life and by best friends

Are you living today better than you did yesterday?

This is one of my favorite questions and one we should ask ourselves from time to time.  It allows us to really pinpoint what is working and what is not, what life lessons we have learned, what progress we have made, and what more we need to learn and unlearn.


We are all aware that life is a journey and our goal should be to take as many steps as we can in the right direction. To know that despite the fact that we may make mistakes along the way, when we look back on where we have been, we will be able to see just how far we have come.  Our views and beliefs are more developed, our understanding of our purpose is becoming clearer, and overall we are just living today in a better way than we did yesterday.  We are learning from the life lessons that have come our way.


Here is the list of 33 lessons that life and my best friends have taught me. The list is not exhaustive and the lessons have no particular priority. Continue reading “33 Lessons taught by life and by best friends”

Wasting time in the pursuit of happiness!?

“Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” ~Socrates

At times I get so involved in exploring a new idea that time passes quicker than it generally does. More often than not, I do not reach the intended crux of the new idea. Any wild exploration is  a meandering journey taking unexpected dips and turns… eventually leading to finding the new idea (good scenario) or finding something unexpected (will-do scenario) or finding nothing at all (dammit!)! At the end of such explorations I wonder whether the idea was really worth the time spent on it? Would it have been better to delegate the exploration to someone who has a better grasp of the idea? Shouldn't I be doing more meaningful structured tasks? Am I really up to writing a blog? Wouldn't it be better to write content for someone and get paid instead?

As I ponder over these time-spans not so well spent, my first impulse was to think of it as something negative — Wasted Time! But was time really wasted? Continue reading “Wasting time in the pursuit of happiness!?”

Maintenance for the Mind


These days I walk to work. I take the overhead walkway and incidentally have to walk opposite to the direction people are taking. I love this because it gives me the feeling of going against the tide with confidence and courage of taking in stride whatever is coming on. But I love this more because I get to see faces of so many people…most of whom are pretty tensed about something. Probably few are anticipating a frustrating day, some are contemplating filing taxes, some listening to sad news of another disaster somewhere, and some may be tensed about getting a raise. With the wonders of technology and high-speed interaction amongst all, most people find it more and more difficult to keep our mental machinery chugging away at optimum performance. Continue reading “Maintenance for the Mind”

Dealing with ‘Comfort Zone’ aka ‘Inertia’ in complicated decision making.


All of us make decisions everyday and are rather good at it. However, when the parameters get a little twisted, most of us get confused, procrastinate, get worried or stressed, find alibis, etc . Bottom line is most of us "chicken out" when it comes to taking a tough stand! So what should we do to simplify taking a complicated decision? Continue reading “Dealing with ‘Comfort Zone’ aka ‘Inertia’ in complicated decision making.”

Games Bosses Play!


Most of us have been in jobs long enough to know games played at work and have insights into key strategies doled out to keep the Boss-Employee equation well balanced. Though most of us may believe that these games are fair-play, few of us have greyed with experience of boss's dirty-tricks and suitable remedial action by employee subject to varying magnitude of skills, strategies and strength that each may have. After all the equation between Boss and Employee is balanced only when the fouls anticipated are counteracted by the right rules. Here is a compilation inspired through grapevine discussions near the water-cooler, the usual hullabaloo at lunch-time and interesting articles floating on the net. Continue reading “Games Bosses Play!”