Compulsive versus Realistic Optimism – Slippery versus Concrete Road!

 

I have a thing for reading self-motivational books and listening to motivational speakers… and having read and listened to many, I can emphatically proclaim a very clear message in all – “Believe that success will come to you, and it will". Those of you who watch Hindi cinema would relate to Aamir Khan saying “All is well!” in “3 Idiots”. This is a variation of above believes.  

 

Having greyed a little and having believed in above for a greater part of my adolescence, I stand to differ presently and would like to re-word the motivational line – “Plan that success will come to you, and it will.”

 

In fact, not only is visualizing or “believizing” "success" unhelpful, it is disastrous. This is good advice to give only if you are trying to sabotage the recipient. It is a recipe for failure. And no, I'm not overstating it.

 

But how can this be? Isn't optimism a good thing? Continue reading “Compulsive versus Realistic Optimism – Slippery versus Concrete Road!”

Ways to convince a Skeptic…

 

Part of my job is to experiment with new ideas and to structure it into a process so that the idea ensures better efficiency at work. En-route this process I deal with people, end users and decision makers, who evaluate the proposal and critique it.


More often than not, most proposals are turned down on grounds that are not technical. No matter how convinced and clear cut the proposal is, I have realized that few people inadvertently are sceptical because of limitations, either of knowledge or finance or anything in-between, on their end.

 

Bottom line is that swaying a person to accept an idea is tough, especially if he or she is a skeptic. To overcome their cynicism, I have learned that I need to adjust my style.


Here are four ways to influence a non-believer:  Continue reading “Ways to convince a Skeptic…”

Games Bosses Play!


Most of us have been in jobs long enough to know games played at work and have insights into key strategies doled out to keep the Boss-Employee equation well balanced. Though most of us may believe that these games are fair-play, few of us have greyed with experience of boss's dirty-tricks and suitable remedial action by employee subject to varying magnitude of skills, strategies and strength that each may have. After all the equation between Boss and Employee is balanced only when the fouls anticipated are counteracted by the right rules. Here is a compilation inspired through grapevine discussions near the water-cooler, the usual hullabaloo at lunch-time and interesting articles floating on the net. Continue reading “Games Bosses Play!”

Building Bridges @ Work

 

The beautiful part of good jobs, apart from the obvious month end pay-checks, is the ability to connect with the end-customer/user and deliver solutions that make a difference in their lives. There is a huge learning curve to ride in such jobs and that by itself is a kicking point for many, including yours truly. However not everyone, especially the end-customer/user, may be ready to join the pleasurable learning curve ride even if it benefits them directly… unless you Build Bridges. Continue reading “Building Bridges @ Work”