These days most of us rush to ‘get things done’, often multitasking in some desperate attempt to make life efficient and productive, both at work and at home. Most people are told or choose to “get the job done” any which ways!
I think this is a problem. The problem with this is from a learning or transforming perspective where we constantly “do” or “act” and we cannot learn or benefit from our actions and experiences. Continue reading ““Getting the Job Done” – An issue to ponder on”
Most of my working life I have been in service industry where I have heard repeatedly the popular aphorism, "People are our greatest asset." Some of us may even believe it. But is this sentiment reflected in:
- the corporate culture of your organization
- the way your leaders lead
In most cases the answer will be “A big NO!” — and there's a reason for that. Continue reading “People Are Not Your Greatest Asset”
Many of us lead initiatives, verticals and organizations where we deliver products or services as a team with inputs from a team comprising multiple skill sets. At times, some of us would have faced a situation where a person gets into the act of wilfully disobeying. This is what is technically called Insubordination.
Having defined Insubordination let us be clear that refusing to perform an action that is unethical or illegal is not insubordination; neither is refusing to perform an action that is not within the scope of authority of the person issuing the order or within the scope of work of the person asked to do the job. Continue reading “Insubordination @ Work”
Whenever a peacock is happy, it dances.
Here is an easy flowchart to keep your spirits dancing (like a peacock’s dance) in times you have a pressing task / issue / problem in hand. Continue reading “THE PEACOCK DANCE FLOWCHART”
I like to participate regularly in few online forums and break-time discussions. In almost all of these forums and discussions I have noticed a common pattern – The best ideas are from people who are optimist. By optimist I mean people who have a good feeling about everything and start on a note of cheer and belief. Such people embrace optimism — inside themselves without any pretence. It is their deep-seated behaviour. It is a gift to understand how to project, share, and inspire with optimism. It is an even greater act of generosity to be inspired by optimism from others and to be willing to receive it.
The capacity to be a natural recipient of ideas and other peoples' optimism is what makes for the ultimate optimist. You may be open to experimenting with new things, but do you truly see the good in something before the bad? The order of this thought process is critical: to try and see everything good in an idea before seeing anything bad. I request that you read the previous line once again…
While most of us like to think we do, and would therefore self-describe ourselves as optimistic, more often (if we are truly honest with ourselves) we are natural critics (even cynics). Continue reading “Three Steps to Optimism”
This topic is close to my heart. Very close I iterate :)! More so with ageing I realize the vitality and magical effects of a good night’s sleep. Not many years earlier when life was simpler, sleep was something that just happened somewhere in-between day and night. As time goes by and as my to-do list is increasingly becoming a book, I realize that sleep is not something that just happens… it needs to be managed well.
With the advent of technology and its increasing burden on our time (are you on Facebook by any chance?! Do you have a smartphone?!), we all experience some level of sleep-depravity most days. We assume that a certain lack of sleep will make us more productive. Unfortunately the truth is otherwise. Most of us are more familiar with the debilitating aspects of little sleep: headaches, irritability, lack of patience with colleagues and family, loss of focus and productivity, too much junk food, weight gain or loss, nails bitten to the quick. We all know what we're supposed to take rest and get more sleep amidst exercising regularly; avoiding caffeine and alcohol; setting priorities, working efficiently, planning ahead… And yet we're more sleep-deprived than ever before, and our personal energy is tanking. Continue reading “Sleep Management / Therapy”
I have a thing for reading self-motivational books and listening to motivational speakers… and having read and listened to many, I can emphatically proclaim a very clear message in all – “Believe that success will come to you, and it will". Those of you who watch Hindi cinema would relate to Aamir Khan saying “All is well!” in “3 Idiots”. This is a variation of above believes.
Having greyed a little and having believed in above for a greater part of my adolescence, I stand to differ presently and would like to re-word the motivational line – “Plan that success will come to you, and it will.”
In fact, not only is visualizing or “believizing” "success" unhelpful, it is disastrous. This is good advice to give only if you are trying to sabotage the recipient. It is a recipe for failure. And no, I'm not overstating it.
But how can this be? Isn't optimism a good thing? Continue reading “Compulsive versus Realistic Optimism – Slippery versus Concrete Road!”
Part of my job is to experiment with new ideas and to structure it into a process so that the idea ensures better efficiency at work. En-route this process I deal with people, end users and decision makers, who evaluate the proposal and critique it.
More often than not, most proposals are turned down on grounds that are not technical. No matter how convinced and clear cut the proposal is, I have realized that few people inadvertently are sceptical because of limitations, either of knowledge or finance or anything in-between, on their end.
Bottom line is that swaying a person to accept an idea is tough, especially if he or she is a skeptic. To overcome their cynicism, I have learned that I need to adjust my style.
Here are four ways to influence a non-believer: Continue reading “Ways to convince a Skeptic…”
Are you living today better than you did yesterday?
This is one of my favorite questions and one we should ask ourselves from time to time. It allows us to really pinpoint what is working and what is not, what life lessons we have learned, what progress we have made, and what more we need to learn and unlearn.
We are all aware that life is a journey and our goal should be to take as many steps as we can in the right direction. To know that despite the fact that we may make mistakes along the way, when we look back on where we have been, we will be able to see just how far we have come. Our views and beliefs are more developed, our understanding of our purpose is becoming clearer, and overall we are just living today in a better way than we did yesterday. We are learning from the life lessons that have come our way.
Here is the list of 33 lessons that life and my best friends have taught me. The list is not exhaustive and the lessons have no particular priority. Continue reading “33 Lessons taught by life and by best friends”
“Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” ~Socrates
At times I get so involved in exploring a new idea that time passes quicker than it generally does. More often than not, I do not reach the intended crux of the new idea. Any wild exploration is a meandering journey taking unexpected dips and turns… eventually leading to finding the new idea (good scenario) or finding something unexpected (will-do scenario) or finding nothing at all (dammit!)! At the end of such explorations I wonder whether the idea was really worth the time spent on it? Would it have been better to delegate the exploration to someone who has a better grasp of the idea? Shouldn't I be doing more meaningful structured tasks? Am I really up to writing a blog? Wouldn't it be better to write content for someone and get paid instead?
As I ponder over these time-spans not so well spent, my first impulse was to think of it as something negative — Wasted Time! But was time really wasted? Continue reading “Wasting time in the pursuit of happiness!?”